Benedicta Okoli, BACP
Warm psychotherapist for midlife and relationship change
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- Relationship and life coach
- BACP accreditation
- Speaks English and Igbo
About Benedicta
Benedicta Okoli is a psychotherapist and relationship coach based in the United Kingdom. She holds BACP accreditation and draws on nine years of clinical experience to help people facing midlife questions, relationship strains and emotional setbacks. Benedicta speaks English and Igbo and works with individuals and couples to address life transitions and difficult feelings.
She helps people who are coping with anxiety, depression, bipolar challenges, addiction and trauma. Benedicta also supports those dealing with relationship and intimacy issues, grief, parenting stress, career change and problems with sleep or eating. Her practice includes attention to neurodiversity and attachment concerns where relevant.
In sessions she uses practical talking therapies such as cognitive behavioural techniques and acceptance and commitment ideas to help people notice patterns and make different choices. She also draws on attachment-based and client-centred ways of working to explore how past relationships affect present choices. The aim is to build clearer goals and usable steps that fit each person’s life.
Benedicta describes her style as warm, respectful and direct. She works together with clients to agree on a plan and adjusts that plan as people change. She encourages small, steady steps and pays attention to safety and pacing when trauma or painful memories come up.
Starting therapy with her involves a short matching questionnaire and then scheduling sessions that suit the client. Benedicta frames the work as collaborative coaching and counselling to help people move through midlife concerns and other major life changes.
She helps people who are coping with anxiety, depression, bipolar challenges, addiction and trauma. Benedicta also supports those dealing with relationship and intimacy issues, grief, parenting stress, career change and problems with sleep or eating. Her practice includes attention to neurodiversity and attachment concerns where relevant.
In sessions she uses practical talking therapies such as cognitive behavioural techniques and acceptance and commitment ideas to help people notice patterns and make different choices. She also draws on attachment-based and client-centred ways of working to explore how past relationships affect present choices. The aim is to build clearer goals and usable steps that fit each person’s life.
Benedicta describes her style as warm, respectful and direct. She works together with clients to agree on a plan and adjusts that plan as people change. She encourages small, steady steps and pays attention to safety and pacing when trauma or painful memories come up.
Starting therapy with her involves a short matching questionnaire and then scheduling sessions that suit the client. Benedicta frames the work as collaborative coaching and counselling to help people move through midlife concerns and other major life changes.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Also works with
Stress, AnxietyLGBTGriefIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderDepressionCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD
Additional focus areas
AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeAvoidant personalityBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHIV / AIDSHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSexualitySmoking / vaping cessationSocial anxiety and phobiaWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems
Experience
9+ years
Credentials
United Kingdom
Languages
English, Igbo
Therapeutic approaches and how they translate online
Benedicta uses cognitive behavioural therapy to help people identify unhelpful thoughts and test new behaviours. CBT is practical and problem-focused, often useful for anxiety, low mood and sleep or eating issues.She also draws on acceptance and commitment therapy which helps people notice difficult emotions and commit to values-led action. ACT can be helpful for midlife transition, stress and chronic worries.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. Benedicta will discuss goals and preferences and then suggest which methods might suit a person best. The plan is agreed together and adjusted as progress is made.
Session formats are not specified in the biography, so please confirm current online options before booking. Many people find remote sessions helpful for fitting work and family life around therapy, keeping check-ins brief when needed, and reducing travel time. Registered or accredited professionals can adapt exercises, thought records and behavioural experiments for an online setting so the work stays practical and goal-oriented.
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of concerns does she help with?
She supports people facing midlife questions, relationship strain, anxiety, depression, bipolar challenges, addiction, trauma, grief and related issues such as sleep or eating difficulties.
How would you describe her therapeutic style?
The approach is warm, respectful and direct. Benedicta aims to combine practical techniques with listening to help clients set clear, manageable goals.
What is her professional background?
She has nine years of clinical experience working as a psychotherapist and relationship coach in the United Kingdom.
Which credential does she hold and where is she based?
She is accredited with the BACP and practises from the United Kingdom.
Which languages are supported in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Igbo.
What session formats are available?
Session formats are not listed in the biography; please confirm current session options before booking.
How does payment and cost work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule according to therapist availability.